Dating sites

[Cracked Pleasures]

[Eight of nine lives]

[Boxguy]

[Eight of nine lives]

[chicken]

'fraid i must agree with Boxguy here, sorry 8:9.
not only have i been happy meeting some people, some people have been happy meeting me! and while i'm not really full of myself, i will say i'm not fat, fugly, socially inept, can't get a date or partner in real life, and have no issues revolving around how fat, fugly, mentally disturbed or inept i am.

i will say be careful, prudent, and reasonable about it. it can be quite rewarding if you play your cards right.


"life lessons" says Boxguy. indeed, life lessons.

[Cracked Pleasures]

[chicken]

[Cracked Pleasures]

[Cracked Pleasures]

Well, in a somewhat impulsive mood I actually did enrol on one such a site. Filled in a profile, did a few tests to determine my personality... and well, have done nothing with it ever since. I am too shy to approach a woman for a date even when the approach is online, I must be totally hopeless Maybe it is just still feeling somewhat odd about such sites and such ways to find romance, on the other hand the regular ways are not exactly working for me. I mean, I hate flirting, I hate the competitive aspect, the having to impress and "seduce". It should not be about such things, romance should just be about loving each other, sharing your most passionate interests together and offering each other a shoulder to cry on when needed. The whole competitive aspect and flirting aspect I am so uninterested in, and most public places are frequented by people interested mainly in a good time and a party night out. I am interested in the type of girl who prefers a good conversation, a debate night, an arts exhibition, a poetry reading ... in other words, the sort of persons who generally do not go to the most visable public places. Maybe that is why I enrolled at that site, but then somehow it still feels somewhat artificial to actually use it. If I knew where to go in regular real places to meet "my type" I would not even think of online dating. Now it is something, after almost a year of doubting, where I see the benefits clearly but somehow also see some argument somewhere to delay actively using such sites.

My lovelife is a disaster and bound to stay that way if I realistically look in the mirror (not appearance wise, behaviour wise I mean)

[Pashernate_Lover]

Well, I think that romances starting by becoming friends on the internet first works out extremely well some times- take, for example, how I met my current awesome boyfriend on IRC, we became friends, I moved away from the internet so we became pen pals and I called him a few times, he moved to California as he had been planning to since before IRC time and stopped by to visit, stayed a couple of days and we started dating a couple of weeks later... In 2005. So go go making more friends on the internet- sometimes it leads to unexpected love

[Cracked Pleasures]

Well, I sent a few messages. I feel so odd about this, reacting on advertisements about dating. In a way it feels a bit artificial, and the contrary of spontaneous "love at first sight" events. But well, sometimes you need to give destiny a push in the right direction I guess. I guess it says enough about my romantic effords that I still await reactions several days after having sent the message!

[Nymphetamine]

Ignoring EON's sweeping generalisations as to who uses Internet Dating sites, I don't believe there is anything shameful about using the Internet as a tool to connect to others, it's after all a form of communication. I agree with EON that there are unsavoury characters that use Internet dating sites, but what he failed to acknowledge in his opening post is that you will find unsavoury people everywhre; in bars, clubs, coffee shops and record shops ect, ect!

I've never used the Internet for dating purposes as I do not believe it will aid me in any given way, and if it helps others than that's great! I imagine there are some awesome catches on these dating sites, you just have kiss a few frogs along the way.