Well, in a somewhat impulsive mood I actually did enrol on one such a site. Filled in a profile, did a few tests to determine my personality... and well, have done nothing with it ever since. I am too shy to approach a woman for a date even when the approach is online, I must be totally hopeless

Maybe it is just still feeling somewhat odd about such sites and such ways to find romance, on the other hand the regular ways are not exactly working for me. I mean, I hate flirting, I hate the competitive aspect, the having to impress and "seduce". It should not be about such things, romance should just be about loving each other, sharing your most passionate interests together and offering each other a shoulder to cry on when needed. The whole competitive aspect and flirting aspect I am so uninterested in, and most public places are frequented by people interested mainly in a good time and a party night out. I am interested in the type of girl who prefers a good conversation, a debate night, an arts exhibition, a poetry reading ... in other words, the sort of persons who generally do not go to the most visable public places. Maybe that is why I enrolled at that site, but then somehow it still feels somewhat artificial to actually use it. If I knew where to go in regular real places to meet "my type" I would not even think of online dating. Now it is something, after almost a year of doubting, where I see the benefits clearly but somehow also see some argument somewhere to delay actively using such sites.
My lovelife is a disaster and bound to stay that way if I realistically look in the mirror (not appearance wise, behaviour wise I mean)

Keep it flaming your desire, always rising higher - Aim for stars and hit the sky
(Echo & The Bunnymen - Evergreen, 1996)
Capital punishment = murder


THE PASSION OF LOVERS IS FOR DEATH (Bauhaus, 1983)